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Kol Nidre unites retirees, rabbinic students in prayer

Baruch Rosenstein and Yechiel Brejt were two of the rabbinic students who led Kol Nidre services at North Oaks Senior Community in Pikesville, Maryland. (Anthony C. Hayes)

Baruch Rosenstein and Yechiel Brejt: two of the students who helped lead Kol Nidre at North Oaks. (Anthony C. Hayes)

Solemnity surrounds the recitation of the ancient Aramaic prayer known as Kol Nidre. Yet its stirring effect on Jews worldwide is undeniable. How emotional the prayer can be could be seen in the Kol Nidre service held recently at North Oaks Senior Community in Pikesville, Maryland.

North Oaks opened in 1990 and offers independent living apartments with access to assisted living, skilled nursing care and rehabilitation services. At its heart, North Oaks is an interactive community – in tune with the spiritual needs of each resident.

North Oaks Senior Living Community

Sherrie Polsky – Community Life Services Director at North Oaks – told me during a brief pre-visit phone interview that the facility has long offered an array of religious options for its mostly Jewish population.

“When residents move in, we ask them if they identify with a particular shul (synagogue.) Many of them do, and as a result, we have relationships with eight different shuls in the area. We also offer in-house Sabbath services which are led by residents of the North Oaks community. Those services attract about 40 residents every week. But for the High Holidays, students from nearby Ner Israel Rabbinical College walk up the street to lead the residents in prayer. Different students, of course, do this every year. We’re looking forward to having them here for Kol Nidre.”

Unlike the confessional Ashamnu prayer most associate with Yom Kippur, Kol Nidre is a technical prayer – a petition annulling any and all vows which may be problematic. Some hold that the importance of the prayer dates to the Spanish Inquisition when forced conversions put Jews at odds with their hidden faith. But the prayer itself preceded the Inquisition by at least 500 years. Is the prayer prophetic or rooted in some lost episode?

Rabbi Naftali Silberberg writes that the solemnity of the prayer may simply arise from the fact that it is the first prayer offered on Yom Kippur. Silberberg goes to add:

“According to Kabbalah, Kol Nidre is more than a technical vow-annulment procedure. Rather, by releasing our vows we are asking G-d to reciprocate in kind. In the event that He has pledged not to bring the redemption just yet, in the event that He made an oath to bring harsh judgments on His people in the following year, we ask that He release these vows and instead grant us a year of happiness and redemption.

“Perhaps this is the reason for the solemnity of the prayer.”

I arrived at North Oaks at 5:00 P.M last Friday — the eve of Yom Kippur. Once inside, I found my way to Wilson Hall, where I was greeted by a congenial man named Sol Fisher.

North Oaks resident Sol Fisher helps lead the weekly Sabbath service. (Anthony C. Hayes)

Fisher has been a resident of North Oaks for a year and a half. He said he is affiliated with temple Oheb Shalom in Baltimore but is presently committed to helping his fellow residents with the weekly Sabbath services at North Oaks.

“For regular Shabbas (Sabbath) services, we have a group of three residents – I’m one of them – who conduct the service. It starts at 11 A.M. and takes about an hour. Then, we’ll have Kiddush, that is, a time for refreshment. Every Saturday we have about 35 – 40 for those services. Today, for Kol Nidre? I don’t know, because many residents go to services with their families.”

I asked Fisher what Kol Nidre personally means to him?

“Oh, it’s hard to explain. It is the most beautiful, the deepest thing that you can have in all the prayers for Yom Kippur. At Oheb Shalom, we have a guy who plays the cello – perhaps you have heard this done? We won’t have a cello here, but that is what I think of when I think of Kol Nidre.”

I also asked Fisher what it meant to have Kol Nidre chanted at North Oaks?

“It’s unbelievable. For those who cannot go to a synagogue and don’t have family around who can take them, we have the students from Ner Israel who come to help conduct the service. It’s perfect! They came for Rosh Hashanah and did a very good job, so we are most happy to have them return for Kol Nidre. Tomorrow, of course, it is a regular Shabbas service, so we will do that, along with our Yizkor (Memorial) service.”

Polsky had told me earlier that the residents would do a special Yizkor service as part of their regular Shabbas worship on Saturday. “We actually came together to create our own Yizkor service and include the names of all of the residents who have died since we last said the memorial prayer,” said Polsky.

Fisher excused himself for a moment to set up the podium mic. He paused briefly as he unraveled the chord and wondered aloud if the student rabbis would even use it? Ner Israel is Orthodox, he informed me, and in the Orthodox tradition the use of a mic on Kol Nidre might be forbidden.

“I’ll hook it up, anyway,” he said. “If they don’t want to use it, then they won’t.”

North Oaks residents await the arrival of the rabbinic students from Ner Israel. (Anthony C. Hayes.

One-by-one, the community residents – many using walkers or other support aides – started to filter into the meeting hall. Several were attended by brightly-dressed nurses. One woman brought her daughter along.

“It’s very important to be here, because my children are going elsewhere,” said Beverly Moses, a one-year resident of North Oaks. “It would have been difficult for them to pick me up and make it to their service in time. I will join them for break-fast, but the fact that I can even attend a service here is very appealing to me.”

Moses said that while she doesn’t always make it down for the weekly Shabbas services, she does try. So does Marion Ripps, who, along with her son Lenny, attended the Friday evening service. Mrs. Ripps, a member of Baltimore Hebrew Congregation, has lived at North Oaks for three years.

“I try to get to the weekly services when I can. It’s important to me that they have services here. Not only for the convenience but also just knowing that they respect the holidays.”

Lenny, a 60-ish comedy writer and producer from Los Angeles, admitted that, even though he is not a particularly religious man, he sees a much larger picture in the modest meeting.

“It’s important for my mom, so it’s important for me. It makes her happy, so that makes me happy. I also feel like, by holding services here, it allows the residents to feel like they are part of a bigger community. You’re doing the things that all the Jews around the world are doing, so you don’t feel isolated. The community is not just where you live. It’s a spiritual connection, and as people get older, that becomes more important.”

Rabbinic students from Ner Israel prepare to lead Kol Nidre at North Oaks. (Anthony C. Hayes)

At about 5:30, seven rabbinic students from Ner Israel arrived. All were wearing dark suits and large-brimmed, black Borsolino hats. Their fringed tzitzit could be seen peeking just beneath their suit jackets.

Though Orthodox, the services the students lead at North Oaks are a blend – more Modern Orthodox or Conservative in nature with just a touch of the Reformed tradition. Yarmulkes are available for those who did not bring their own, but not all of the men wear them. Women may sit with the men, and allowances are made for the aches of the aging population. No one was asked to stand for any of the prayers – a normal practice in Judaism. To the contrary – the students did their best to make sure all of those in attendance were comfortably settled and had a prayer book in hand.

The service began with a brief explanation of Kol Nidre by one of the student rabbis:

“On a simple level, Kol Nidre is a piece – a paragraph where we make the declarations: That all our vows should be null and void. That they should not be binding.

“But there is a deeper interpretation to the Kol Nidre service.

A student chazzan (cantor) reciting Kol Nidre. (Anthony C. Hayes)

“The same way we are declaring our vows to be null and void, we are trying to hint to G-d that if there should be some calamity (determined for our lives) that He should also make that vow null and void.”

Turning to the prayer book, a student chazzan (cantor) recited Kol Nidre three times – each time louder than before. The congregation chanted along with the cantor in a grievous undertone, repeating the ancient Aramaic prayer.

As the chazzan continued chanting additional prayers throughout the hour-long service, his fellow students kept a weather-eye on the residents – helping them find the right page in their prayer book, and offering brief explanations of the text to anyone who asked. One student to my left hovered near a grey-haired man in a plaid sport shirt. He stepped forward at least twice to help guide a young nursing aide, who was attending the service with an infirm resident.

On the right side of the congregation, another student spotted a man seated along the center aisle. The bespectacled resident was thumbing his prayer book and appeared to be somewhat lost. The student quietly moved around the room, walked up the aisle and paused at the mans side. Without saying a word, he leaned slightly over and then gently ran his finger across the page – effectively bringing the appreciative resident up to speed.

A rabbinic student helps a North Oaks resident find his place in the prayer book. (Anthony C. Hayes)

When the service was over, it was difficult to ascertain which group came away more greatly blessed: the young scholars – who smiled broadly as they helped several shaky residents stand, or the aged congregation – many dabbing tears from their eyes as they thanked the earnest young students.

Perhaps Yechiel Brejt – a third-year student at Ner Israel – summed up the feeling of his fellow scholars the best:

“It’s very inspiring to see older people still coming out; to be meeting for services here on Yom Kippur. As a teenager, this is something which keeps me going. To see that older people still find meaning in this. It was a very pleasurable experience. I may be going to Israel soon, but I hope to come here again next year.”

As for the congregation, one man who was visibly moved by the warmth and the attentiveness of the rabbinical students, confided that he usually sends Ner Israel a check for twenty dollars.

“This year, I’ll be sending them considerably more.”

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Editor’s note: This is the eighteenth part of an ongoing series which will look at the places and people that make up the rich history and diverse nature of spirituality, belief, and observance in Baltimore and beyond. Read the series here.


About the author

Anthony C. Hayes

Anthony C. Hayes is an actor, author, raconteur, rapscallion and bon vivant. A former reporter at The Washington Herald and an occasional contributor to the Voice of Baltimore, Tony's poetry, humor and prose have also been featured in Smile, Hon, You’re in Baltimore!; Magic Octopus Magazine; Destination Maryland; Alvarez Fiction and Tales of Blood and Roses. Contact the author.
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